It is that time again! It’s time to recap and reflect as we end the year, pop a bottle of the bubbly champagne, and get ready for the new year. 2015 has been good to me, and I want to share the top 10 lessons I’ve learned which I want to carry over 2016.
1. It’s OK to be single. Man this was a big one. 2015 was a big year for many of my friends. While they were getting engaged and married, I was slowly adjusting to the single life after many many years. Even though many of my friends were moving forward in their lives with their significant other, I’ve realized that this year I have moved forward as well: with myself. I was able to really focus on myself, learned what I loved, and found that one can truly be happy single.
2.You become who you surround yourself with. I cannot tell you how important this. There was a point in my life this year I was surrounded by someone who complained about EVERYTHING. So what did I end up doing? You bet-cha, complain. I started thinking negative and became my own version of negative Nancy. Fast forward a few months after removing myself from that situation, and boom: I stopped complaining. Surround yourself with people who have a positive outlook on life, and you’d be surprised at how different your world becomes.
3. When one door closes, another door will not open as fast as you’d like, but I promise it will open. Sometimes one door closes for a reason. When it does, you should not give up and be down in the dumps about it. And when another door doesn’t open, have faith that it will. Being unemployed for a few months really taught me this lesson. And now looking back, I am so thankful for it because it helped open the opportunity I am much more happy with.
4. Be persistent at going above and beyond, because actions are more important than words. This was huge for me for my career. I started out as a contract position, and my job was to focus on two of the major events my company had. However, I started doing more. I’ve asked for more responsibilities, learned new skills on my own, and made it a mission to become an asset for the company. Long story short, by doing this I was offered a full time position. This goes anywhere else in life. If you want something, take action and constantly strive to be better.
5. It’s ok to try new things. It is so easy to go about your day doing the same things over and over again. The only problem is that this will prevent you from any growth. Try new things, work on your craft, and take risks. For me it was putting myself out there through my blog and trying out YouTube. The point is, I’ve developed skills that benefitted me in the long run and helped me figure out what I really love to do.
6. Accept your flaws. This goes along with confidence. It’s a working progress. I’ve always have had insecurities and will probably always have them (I am human). For example, I honest to god think I am one of the most awkward humans on this planet. This would prevent me from interacting with people and made me become more of a loner. I’ve isolated myself from a lot of my friends and even my family. This year I’ve decided to accept my flaws. And by accepting my flaws, I’ve learned to better myself. Sure, I’m still just as awkward, BUT I’ve built great relationships with old friends and family, as well as newer ones this year.
7. Do what makes YOU happy. Don’t worry about everyone else. This took me a full 26 years to realize this one simple concept. I’ve always been the type of person who was always concerned about other peoples thoughts and their perception of me. Along with that, I was trying to go through a career path my family would be approving, completely disregarding what I liked to do. What’s important is doing what you love to do. You are the one steering your life, so take yourself somewhere YOU will be happy, not someone else.
8. Make sure to reevaluate your goals throughout the year. This goes hand in hand with your growth. By giving a pat on your back for your achievements,stopping and reevaluating your goals, and figuring out a game plan to reach your goals, growth will be inevitable.
9. Surround yourself with people who support you and thank them. Surround yourself with people that will build you up instead of tearing you down. And let them know how much you appreciate them. They are genuinely there to watch you grow and succeed, as well as being your support when you slip and tumble.
10. Don’t worry about the wrong things. One of my best friends always tells me “You worry about the wrong things.” I thought it was crazy talk and that my problems were ginormous. By looking back, I just want to face palm real hard. Sometimes the things you worry about is very small in retrospect. Just by taking a step back, taking a breather, and figuring out solutions to my worries, I’ve learned that things will be OK.
I hope you all have had an amazing year in 2015. Now lets start 2016 with a bang!